I realized something pretty important recently and thought I would share it with you and have it here as a reminder for myself. Don’t forget about you, moms.
For a while there I was putting my kids needs before anything else. I thought this would be best for everyone. Turns out it wasn’t good for anyone at all. I was in a weird haze after having the little guy where I was in survival mode. It seemed to last longer with the second kiddo. I guess because there was now two to take care of. I didn’t even realize what I was doing. I put my personal needs last. Everything was about kids being fed, keeping them “entertained” and work getting done. I was just last. I had time to shower and pick up the house a bit but I was not making anytime for things I wanted or needed to thrive as a person.
I think our vacation is when I realized that I need to do more things for me. We needed the break from our normal lives to go out and explore. We needed a change. I needed to shift my thinking. I don’t need to “entertain” my kids. They needed to learn to play independently at times. I needed to put myself first and take care of me so I would be better fit to take care of them. You have no idea how many times I have told my family I need to get my eyes checked. I finally made that appointment and will be going this week.
I kept thinking if I focus my attention on the kids that I could worry about myself later. This doesn’t work. Once I started to put my personal needs first, I realized I was a better mom. I am happy to listen to the 25 questions my daughter asks me every morning, before I even get a chance to have a cup of coffee. Knowing that my needs are met make all the difference in the world.
There is this thing called mom guilt that us moms know a lot about. Do not feel guilty for doing the things you love. The kids will learn to love what you are doing or they will learn how to be passionate about their own hobbies. Showing a love for your hobbies or work is a good thing. I hope you have a good day and remember to take care of you. xo – Bri